Seven Conversations…

I love talking with my wife!  I love hearing her thoughts and I love sharing mine.  Her words live in my heart and make me different.  I findCoffee-2-cupsherto be both wise and funny.  Want to know a secret?  Merrily and I have a basic set of about seven conversations that form the basis for all of our communication. Every day Merrily and I talk about…

  • Our relationship
  • Our Kids/family
  • Our schedule
  • Our resources (read money, time and money)
  • Our faith
  • Our church
  • Ourselves/each other

We discuss these topics each day, sometimes more than once a day, sometimes with greater focus put on a specific subject, but for the most part, these topics form the daily conversations for the Lee’s.

Throughout the day we also talk about, politics, news, prices, jokes, people we saw or met, hobbies, traffic, a book, something we read, a show we liked or fell asleep watching.  (How did that House episode end?) We also still call just to say “hi”.  But the reality is the seven basic conversations we have are the foundation to our marriage partnership and friendship.  Without these seven basic conversations, we could talk about all the other stuff and never communicate a thing.

Here is something really cool for me.  After nearly 21 years, I am not even the slightest bit tired of these basic conversations.  I love them because of how they connect us at a shared set of values.

So maybe you are thinking, “Great Leonard, TMI coming from the Lee home… I clicked the link for this?  So let me “preacherfy” (this is what preachers do to make stuff sound spiritual) this for a moment.  If these seven basic conversations form a great foundation in my marriage, is it possible that a set of daily basic conversations with God could do the same?  For me the answer is a resounding yes!  Every day God and I talk about…

  • Our relationship – worship, thanks, adorations and how and where to grow.
  • My wife and kids – How to love them like Christ does and the courage and strength to do so.
  • My schedule and aligning it to God’s schedule.
  • My heart – sin, confession, anxiety, joy, pain, love…
  • The church – the one I pastor and the body of Christ beyond our walls.
  • People yet to believe in Christ.
  • Decisions/wisdom – needs and how to go about trusting God for them and meeting them.

Now don’t get me wrong, I pray for the sick, needy and for green lights too.  I talk with God about money, about friends, about my country and its leaders, parking spots, people who ask me to pray for them… and much more.  But as with Merrily, these seven basic conversations keep my friendship with Christ on a solid foundation.  Truth be told, this approach has been hugely helpful in building my prayer life.

So here is an invitaiton:  Make a list of your basic conversations with God and then set a daily appointment with Him to have them.  Once done, spend the rest of the day talking to him about anything and everything.  Let me offer a note of clarification. A conversation is a two way street, it is not a monolog.  It requires us to speak and to listen. This is not a list you bring to God but a list of conversations you have with God. Give it a try for a few weeks and then let me know how it went.  That’s all for today.  Off… we go now.

~ by OFF we go now on October 20, 2009.

4 Responses to “Seven Conversations…”

  1. Pastor Leonard – I really like this posting. Lots of food for thought……….and a great personal challenge for me as conversing with God on an intimate level is difficult at times for me. Thanks for the encouragement!

  2. Very cool, Leonard — not only about your conversations with your wife but how it applies to your conversations with God! Well said!

  3. I especially like this one! Thanks for sharing!

  4. Listen, listen, listen, I keep hearing that this week! Thanks for the inspiring words.

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