Mirror Mirror…

Have you ever left the house and realized you missed something important?  Food stuck in your teeth, a shirt with a stain, the dreaded white mark from your deodorant, your hair doing the rooster, zipper left at half mast…  This is why God invented the mirror.  The mirror can be a pretty good friend, telling you what to fix before you get gawked at.  Every day I see people who convince me they do not own a mirror.

I was in a restaurant and I saw a guy eat a giant burrito in about 3.5 bites and when he was done there was some green vegetation the size of a quarter on his face.  He got up, walked around, got another soda and people stared.  I finally whispered… “Hey buddy, you got a head of lettuce on your face.”  A guy that eats like that should carry an after meal mirror.

I think that my mirror is one of those weird circus mirrors because it makes me look short and wide.  Mirrors are great for assessing the outside and I think those full length body mirror with light and 360 degree angles should come in every home.  But there are some things that are hard to see in the mirror.

As a pastor, a lot of people talk to me about life.  Couples who are fighting, teens and individuals who are wrestling with decisions, relationships and life in general all make their way through my office.  One commonality many of these conversations have is that there are some things people just cannot see in themselves.  No mirror made by man can give a true reflection of the inside.  Here is a short list of hard to see traits.

  • Self-centeredness
  • Ungratefulness
  • Foolishness
  • Greed
  • Unteachable heart

I have never had someone say to me.  “Pastor, my problem is that I am foolish.”   Usually they try to sell me on their own wisdom.  I have never had someone say to me, “Pastor, my problem is I am too ungrateful.”  Usually they tell me why they are complaining.  I have never had someone say to me, “Pastor, my problem is that I am just unteachable.”  But I promise you; more than one person with an unwilling heart has sat on my couch in my office.

These are easy to spot traits in other but almost impossible traits to see in ourselves.  We can recognize foolish behavior in others quickly, but in ourselves it is simply behavior we can handle.  We can recognize ungratefulness in others, but in ourselves, it is justifiable behavior.

Imagine that you get up in the morning and the first thing you do is look in your mirror.  As you take a gander, you discover that your hair has been shaped by your pillows and looks like it was combed by a blender on steroids.  Your first reaction is to yell at your mirror.  “How dare you show me what my hair looks like.  I hate you Mr. Mirror.”  Silly response isn’t it?  But here is what is kind of interesting; anger is almost always the first response when these “blind spots” are revealed and anger almost always hijacks growth in the areas we are most blind.  Over the next few blogs I want to post about some of the above mentioned “hard to see in the mirror spots” we all have.  That’s all for today and thanks for reading.  Off…we go now.

~ by OFF we go now on December 8, 2010.

4 Responses to “Mirror Mirror…”

  1. This is really a great post, Leonard. Along with the negative traits, I think sometimes people struggle with seeing their strengths or even the fact that they are hurting inside, too. I’m looking forward to following this series of posts.

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  3. I’ve been struggling a bit lately with how much of that junk I ignore… that I think one thing about myself when in reality I’m foolish, or selfish, or unteachable. Thanks, great thoughts, brother man!

  4. I think that many of us do have mirrors. They are our children. Unfortunantly when we see what we do no like we correct it in them, not realizing that it is ourselves we need to correct.

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